Step 1: Be aware of the restriction stories
I started by writing that fairly restrictive beliefs I had about me.
1) I am lazy.
2) I am an underachiever.
3) I will never reach above mediocrity.
4) chances are a million to one that I wrote a book would be a success.
5) will lose interest in things and not complete.
6) I'm just an average salesperson.
7) If I quit smoking I'll start again.
8) Enough is good enough.
9) I am not worthy of success.
10) to feel proud is futile.
Step 2: Validate or discredit faith
Then I asked myself these questions for each conviction.
1) is accurate?What evidence is there to confirm or discredit this belief?
2) This serving any real purpose?
3) what should I do to change it?
Step 3: Pain and recreation associations
Finally, I was at the forefront of raising my pain that I'm still around, keeping the belief and the pleasure of releasing himself.
1) what it costs?How much pain you experience due to the belief that?
2) What will it cost me to get in the future if I can't change?
3) What stand to gain if I change/remove this restrictive beliefs?
Let's analyze the limiting beliefs # 1, I'm lazy» beginning with step 2 above.
1) is accurate? what elements you have to confirm or discredit this belief?
Apart from an occasional nap 1-hour Sunday I always move. I have a home on 8 acres with dogs that need walking, cats and horses needed food, hundreds of feet of the Management Board fencing to keep up to date, lawn to mow, music for plays and books to write. I expected to be a car salesman 50 hours per week, too. watching TV with Joan for an hour or two a few nights a week does not qualify for "lazy".
2) This serving any real purpose?
Absolutely not.
3) what should I do to change it?
Once you have answered the first question I had discovered the absurdity of this conviction and throws me at location "opinion of self-service. answering questions 2-4 simply strengthened the need to rid myself convinced.
Others were not so easy to remove from the shelves.Let's look at # 2, ' I am an underachiever '.
1) Is somewhat accurate. Promote excellence in virtually all make, if this cooking a hamburger, learning a new bass line or get a dog to sit for the command Typically achieve anything I put. in my view, with one exception. my job as a salesman. the difference?Apart from payment accounts you actually place no value on having a good salesperson.
2) indeed, Yes. "I am an underachiever ' is an example of a seemingly disempowering belief serving any real purpose.Is the small pebble in my shoes which reminds me that I have a job to do and discomfort away until they will not do, however, are an annoyance that I disappear. branches do so is huge.
3) the only way I can change my belief is to do what you need to do-which is what I do now.
Now I have some influence over the conviction of some of his painfully listing things that I would experience if not get rid of it, and the good stuff that happens if I do.Here were a few comments from my notes:
1) what it costs me? how much pain you experience due to the belief that?
Pain is a vendor is a dull yet persistent torture. since I am not very good at it (a limiting belief that needs attention?)and I did not enjoy self appreciation suffers further discomfort. is there a constant nuisance than an inner voice that tells me I was here to do something else.
2) What will it cost me to get in the future if I can't change?
The cost is more than the same self-guilt and dissatisfaction and frustration that accompany it.
3) What stand to gain if I change/remove this restrictive beliefs?
The joy that comes from creating something beautiful and beneficial using the gifts bestowed to me by a loving God. Peace of mind. exemption from all things listed on 1 and 2 above.
Watching these beliefs in print was like looking in the mirror and then noting that myself had turned green pea-soup and was covered with boils.
There is a living, breathing is behind the ugliness, but will take major surgery to restore the former admit. the initial incision was under the guise of simply awareness. see the absurdity of some of my beliefs were enough to avert them will require amputation. other and replacement with prosthesis in the form of an equally empowering beliefs will my original Here. diagnosis of any belief.
I will never reach above mediocrity.
If I continue to ignore the calls my inner character that is likely to be true.
The odds are a million to one that I wrote a book would be a success.
"The book" my mission in life is. Chances are unrelated. I should try and have confidence that in the end justifies the means.
We lose interest in things and not complete.
Rare and only if it is insignificant.
I'm just an average salesperson.
My attempt to blame. Excel as a salesman would be similar to an attempt by excel as a Chicken Hawk chicken. Close but no cigar.
If I quit smoking I'll start again.
Possibly, if you don't quit this can kill me.(Update: I quit cold Turkey on 7/2/2007)
Enough is good enough.
Only if you consider it a minor but necessary.
I am not worthy of success.
This is just ridiculous!
To feel proud is futile.
Gotta get that one!
Replacing beliefs held for decades will not happen overnight. my recovery will take time I will replace doubt with faith and confidence and increase my fried self image; but, having learned the power of beliefs can set my reality, moving my actions and my results to determine between calm demonstration until the patient enjoys full recovery.
Jerry Grinkmeyer is the author of "Conversations with Katherine", the story of a middle-aged man struggle to overcome causes degeneration self the bequeathed by an abusive image step-mother is an account representative of the author's journey back to logic and the lessons he's progress. Visit the author's website: http://www.personal-growth-journey.com in
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